Generating Protected, Sane, and Consensual Boundaries with Cannabis


It is December, so light one particular up as we take the time to realign and reflect. As we gallop by means of the fierce, fiery, and adventurous domain of Sagittarius Season, we’re led deeper into our desires, into what’s worthwhile for us to personal and attain. Represented by the glyph of the archer, Sagittarius is one particular with the bow and arrow it carries aiming at its vision with intent and concentrate. Sagittarius calls us to develop and evolve, and at times this signifies taking stock of various elements of our life, like our emotional, physical, and spiritual wellbeing. And whilst it may well not be the most exciting point to believe about, at times this can assist us obtain clarity about our connection with factors like cannabis, and how this is assisting or hindering our magick. 

It is no shocker that I appreciate cannabis. Even though I use it to assist with anxiousness, I mainly use it recreationally, as a way to loosen up and bond with loved ones and good friends, as properly as a aspect of my spiritual and ritual practice. But lately something’s been off my physique hasn’t been reacting to cannabis the way it typically does. I took a tolerance break earlier this Fall to assist with this, but now I am realizing the universe and my spirit guides are most probably yelling at me—through a racing heart and unhappy lungs—to let me know that the way I have been functioning with this sacred plant medicine is not so sacred. Considering the fact that it is Sagittarius season, and nearing the finish of the year, I decided it would be a fantastic time to readjust my connection with weed. But I cannot assist but wonder: because this is a season when exciting and sexiness reign supreme…can I use BDSM to assist redefine my connection with cannabis?

To assist me answer the large queries (like how can I be the Domme in my connection to cannabis alternatively of obtaining cannabis Domme me?) I talked to skilled dominatrix, sex witch and cannabis connoisseur Domina Dia Dynasty. We speak about obtaining clarity, negotiating boundaries with plant medicine, holding reverence for the spirit of the cannabis plant and how to use kink to whip your connection with cannabis into shape. 

Be Sincere About Your Partnership With Cannabis

The initial step you will want to take in developing a healthier and saner connection with cannabis is to be sincere about what this connection appears like suitable now, and how this has shifted because you entered the connection. Like myself, Dia had a exciting and lighthearted connection with cannabis at the starting, but right after getting into a romantic partnership midway by means of her time Domming at a industrial dungeon seven years ago, factors started to shift, causing her to rethink the strategies in which she was utilizing cannabis.

“I saw added benefits of it that have been far more in a playful exciting way, in loosening my thoughts up and getting inventive. Then it began to be this point that I necessary to deal with anxiousness and to deal with specific elements of my connection that I was pretty pretty blind to mainly because I didn’t know what PTSD and trauma looked like in other men and women,” Dia explained. “I could see it in passing with some of the clientele I had or that they would inform me about it, but in living with somebody and obtaining a connection with them that was intimate on all levels, it was challenging for me to fully grasp what was truly going on.”

Even though she would incorporate cannabis into some of her sessions with clientele, either as some thing to boost somatic experiences, or to result in some anxiousness that she would hold space for and transmute, Dia realized that her connection with the plant was becoming habitual, and not as conscious as it had been in the starting. “I had permitted cannabis to dominate me by creating a dependency with it.  Now as I’ve shifted my connection with it, it is not so a great deal that I’m dominating it, it is far more like getting in that mode of switchiness,” Dia explains. “I want to have a healthier connection with it and I do not want to say ‘I’m quitting’ or ‘I’m not carrying out it anymore’. It is far more about gaining clarity. As somebody who is pretty switchy and pretty mutable, it is superior for me to be capable to opt for some thing than to be forbidden to not opt for something”

In my personal case, utilizing cannabis habitually has also develop into a dependency, one particular that I really feel like I want for social events or to assist quell anxious, lonely or worried thoughts. And whilst I’m okay nonetheless utilizing cannabis, I comprehend that this is not sustainable, and that seeing the plant with far more reverence, and seeing its use as some thing sacred, alternatively of some thing super casual, will assist me deepen my connection with its spirit. 

Ivory Woods

Get Clear On Your Intention And Re-Negotiate Boundaries 

Taking the time to believe of how your connection to cannabis has shifted, and what you want this to appear like, will only assist you negotiate healthier boundaries with it in the future. This negotiation is some thing that is also noticed in the BDSM globe.  Just before you commence a scene, which is an arranged and consensual BDSM (bondage/ dominance/ discipline/ sadism/ masochism) act, you will negotiate with your partners and make a decision on any boundaries (so any YES’s and any challenging NO’s) you have. When we are reframing our usage of cannabis, regardless of whether it is mainly because we want to have a far more conscious connection with it or mainly because we want to be healthier, we can renegotiate our boundaries in the identical way, to assistance what we do want our connection with cannabis to appear like.  Just mainly because Dia is seeking for multidimensional clarity with her connection with cannabis, does not imply that has to be the target for you to. 

If you are like me, perhaps you are just seeking for a healthier physical connection to your physique, or to truly honor the reverence of the cannabis plant. What ever your intention is, finding clear on this ahead of you commence negotiating with oneself can assist you set oneself up for accomplishment. Getting realistic expectations and boundaries for this operate is also a further large piece of the puzzle. Are you seeking to have a far more mystical connection with earth medicine? Or to truly only operate with the plant when you are in social scenarios? Possibly you want to only use it medicinally, and not recreationally. Honor what ever feels correct for you in this predicament.

“That type of reframing is truly critical. I do not think in absolutes. So to concentrate far more on clarity is not to say ‘I will in no way do this once more,’” Dia explains. “It’s far more ‘What do I want now?’ It is far more of a case-by-case point now. Renegotiating your boundaries in a way that is like ‘I’m only going to smoke with other people’ or setting down parameters exactly where you make a decision ‘I’m only going to smoke at a specific time beneath specific conditions’ and then stick to these so you do not have regrets later. Choose slightly superior possibilities, slightly superior possibilities we’re not attempting to go the complete route, but taking one particular step at a time”

Taking child actions to get to exactly where you are going is okay as well you do not start out a BDSM scene at complete force, but make up to the preferred intensity so you are capable to sustain it. We’re carrying out the identical point in reframing our connection to ganja. Generating boundaries is an act of self-preservation considering about what you want and what tends to make sense for your life is essential. If you smoke every single day, perhaps it tends to make sense to start out with only smoking at evening and on the weekends, or only with good friends throughout the week. Possibly you only smoke two joints per week, or operate with CBD and not THC. Hold oneself accountable, but do not overlook to have self-compassion and recall why you are carrying out this in the initial spot. 

Develop Private Rituals And Protocols

When we’ve developed boundaries or challenging limits for ourselves, a further large way we can operate with cannabis is by means of sacred intent. We can honor the spirit of the cannabis plant is by blessing it, by holding it with reverence, and by celebrating the spirit of the plant itself. This does not have to be difficult. It can be some thing as easy as holding your flower, vape, concentrate, or tincture in your hands and thanking it, or charging your flower on your altar. 

“Ritualize the use of it, and even ahead of you engage with that ritual with how you smoke or take it in, attempt blessing it and obtaining that be a aspect of the ritual,” Dia suggests. “I believe all of these elements of ritual also enable you to look at if this is some thing you want suitable now in this moment. Like exactly where is this want or drive coming from? Am I self-medicating, am I feeding a dependency? From time to time you are in the middle of setting up a ritual and you are like ‘I’m carrying out this out of worry.’ From time to time it is that moment of clarity, like ‘maybe I ought to place this off till later, or comeback to it when I’m not feeling fearful.’” 

You can even make rituals a non-negotiable for oneself, functioning that into your boundaries, developing your personal protocol as it is recognized in the BDSM globe. A protocol is a ritual you practice in a energy-dynamic it can be placing a collar on the submissive, kissing the boots of the dominant when they enter the space, or obtaining a freshly packed bowl on the nightstand every single evening. Possibly your individual protocol with cannabis is saying “thank you” to the earth and the cannabis plant and all the men and women that have helped you connect with it. Possibly it is smoking out of a sacred crystal bowl anytime you incorporate weed into your witchcraft, or consuming a chocolate edible every single time you take a ritual bath. Your protocol can even be taking a second to believe “do I truly want this suitable now” and then honoring what ever the answer is. The protocols and ritual have to match into your life and make sense for you. If they do not, what’s the point?

The High Priestess: Creating Safe, Sane, and Consensual Boundaries with Cannabis
Ivory Woods

Invite Cannabis To The Scene

If we are negotiating our connection to cannabis as if we have been in a scene, then who’s to say that the spirit of cannabis is not a further companion we have to operate with? Who’s to say the Ganja Goddess does not develop into a further prepared participant? We can incorporate cannabis into a scene actually, like smoking ahead of a fantastic consensual spanking session or by playing with forced intoxication (consensually finding a companion stoned), and taking note of how the cannabis impacts our physique, thoughts, and spirit. And we can also do this in ritual, when we are opening ourselves up to connect to some thing larger than ourselves regardless of whether it is the universe, pleasure, or the actual spirit of the cannabis plant. 

“Allow it [the cannabis plant] to speak to you. At the starting of a ceremony, you can open up to that intention ‘what do you want me to know, what do you want me to see, what do you want me to really feel.’ Let the cannabis to be that wisdom that comes in and shows you factors,” Dia suggests. 

Whether or not you are seeking to smoke significantly less, smoke far more consciously, or just make positive you are the Domme in your connection to cannabis, adding a bit of subversion to the practical experience cannot assist. By finding clear on your intentions, renegotiating your boundaries with cannabis, and developing sacred protocols and rituals you will come out on prime with your connection to weed. And if you want to pervert this even far more, and operate a tiny attractive kinky stoned magick in there, we’ll that cannot hurt either. So mote it be, witches.


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